07 Mar 2014
- Written by Lucy Shaw
Dear Lucy: I have been ill for some time. I read your articles and you have said that the most important part of healing is forgiveness. I have tried to forgive those who have hurt me so much but I cannot forget what they did to me. My pastor says that when we forgive it is not complete until we forget. How do you forget?
– Still Sick
Dear Still Sick: Most of us have been told that forgetting and forgiving go hand in hand. I don't agree. Memories always live in us at some level, conscious or unconscious. There are many things I thought I had forgotten only to have them pop up one day under unexpected provocation.
It is not that we forgive and miraculously forget the slight or the hurt. What we must do is forgive and also let go of the sting, resentment, vengefulness and anger over the memory of the hurtful event.
06 Mar 2014
- Written by Lucy Shaw
For me, nothing could eclipse my happiness for Lupita Nyong'o when she won her Oscar as Best Supporting Actress a few nights ago. I was not only thrilled for her but for the profound, timely and necessary message brought to the world by the movie, "12 Years a Slave." This young woman has taken Hollywood and the movie-viewing world with her extraordinary poise and humility wrapped around her awesome talent.
What may not be widely known is that just a few days before her Oscar win, Lupita received an award at the seventh annual Black Women in Hollywood Luncheon hosted by Essence Magazine. Her award was for Best Breakthrough Performance. On this occasion she delivered the speech below.
I concur with most who heard it that it is (sadly in 2014) a speech about beauty and self-image that every young brown, black, red or yellow girl should get to hear. It was first posted online by Time Magazine. I found a video and transcript at upworthy.com.
05 Mar 2014
- Written by Raynard Jackson/Special to The New Tri-State Defender
In all organized sports, there are clearly defined rules that must be adhered to. In all universities, there are clearly stated guidelines for admittance. In all religions, there are shared beliefs that all members must adhere to. Without these clearly defined rules of engagement (ROEs), there can be no order within groups; and without order there is nothing left but chaos.
Groups and organizations, by definition are all predicated upon certain agreed upon principles and values. These agreed upon principles and values are the raison d'etre of these entities.
You join the Boy Scouts, for example, because you are a boy and you join the Girl Scouts because you are a girl. You are a male because you are born with a penis and you are a girl because you are born with a vagina. These things used to be unquestioned statements of fact.
25 Feb 2014
- Written by Perry Bacon Jr./theGrio
Kentucky Sen. Rand Paul speaks about racial issues both more often and in blunter terms than almost any prominent white Republican politician in the country, building a unique brand for himself that could help in his likely 2016 presidential run but also taking stands that are more controversial than his fellow conservatives.
Other Republicans, including Rep. Paul Ryan (R-Wisc,) and Rep. Eric Cantor (R-Va.), speak regularly about income inequality and tout familiar conservative policies to appeal to black Americans, such as school vouchers. And Paul is not alone in urging the GOP to expand its base beyond conservative, white voters: the Republican National Committee released an entire report on this issue last year.
But Paul's approach is unique. He avoids euphemisms often used by GOP politicians like "inner city" or "low-income" to speak in direct terms about blacks, both as a group Paul says his policies will help and a segment of the population he wants to get to vote for Republicans. He has joined in traditionally-Democratic causes, like urging the restoration of voting rights for convicted felons, while at the same time annoying African-Americans with such a self-confidence on racial issues that last year he detailed the history of the Republican Party and race to a group of students at Howard University who then angrily told the senator they knew those facts as well as he does.
19 Feb 2014
- Written by Zerlina Maxwell/theGrio
Ted Nugent must be made of Teflon.
There is nothing too controversial the rocker and NRA board member can say about President Obama or people of color that would make him off limits to elected Republicans.
Nugent whose racialized language about the nation's first black president should alienate him from Republicans who are not on the fringe, but with the news of his joint appearance with Republican gubernatorial candidate Gregg Abbott, it seems Teflon Ted is still beloved by many in the Republican ranks.
16 Dec 2013
- Written by Delano Squires /theGrio
Don Lemon's unsolicited social commentary this year on the things holding back the black community and the New York Police Department's stop-and-frisk policy earned him a level of contempt typically directed at the Supreme Court's lone black justice.
Lemon's critics, much like Thomas', question his understanding of the issues facing African-Americans. The CNN anchor's focus on sagging pants and littering was as disturbing to them as Justice Thomas comparing affirmative action to Jim Crow or siding with the majority in striking down a key provision of the Voting Rights Act. Lemon could have focused on mass incarceration, urban school closures, or one of the other important issues facing communities of color. His decision not to do so earned him a stern rebuke from Russell Simmons, theGrio's Goldie Taylor and others who questioned his motives and found his analysis to be woefully inadequate.
Despite the criticism he received, Don Lemon isn't alone in his analysis of the things holding African-Americans back. A 2010 Pew report found that 52 percent of African-Americans believe blacks who cannot get ahead are mainly responsible for their situation, while only 34 percent cited racial discrimination as the main reason. The study found that this view was markedly different fifteen years prior, when almost 60 percent of blacks saw discrimination as the main factor holding African-Americans back.
03 Dec 2013
- Written by Jesse L. Jackson Sr./NNPA News Service
Pope Francis is displaying an extraordinary style and passion that demands our attention. He addresses the needs of the poor, embraces the outcasts, and loves those on the margins of society. In this recent "apostolic exhortation," The Joy of the Gospel, he raises a moral challenge to both his church and his world.
Like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Pope Francis calls upon people of faith to "go forth" to preach and practice their faith. "I prefer a church," he writes, "which is bruised, hurting and dirty because it has been out on the streets, rather than a church which is unhealthy for being confined and from clinging to its own security."
Pope Francis raises a profound moral voice against "trickle-down theories," which put a "crud and naïve trust in the goodness of those wielding economic power." We have created "new idols," he warns, in the worship of money and markets. The result is that "human beings are themselves considered consumer goods to be used and then discarded." We have witnessed "a globalization of indifference," in which the poor are dehumanized and ignored.
26 Nov 2013
- Written by Will Wright/theGrio
The hashtag '#knockoutgame' tells the story.
Social media is buzzing with fear and hysteria and the spread of anti-black sentiment. The proxy war for a host of racial agendas has a new rallying call. It is "the knockout game."
For those who followed the so called "Central Park Jogger" case, an incident in April of 1989 when one Hispanic and four black teens from Harlem were said to be "wilding," this 'knockout game' development is very troubling.
19 Nov 2013
- Written by Lucy Shaw
Dear Lucy: There are some people who make me feel so small when I am around them. I don't know why but I just want to disappear. I never feel like I could ever be as smart or successful as them and I just lose my power when I am around them. I really need to get over this because it makes me feel like I am weak! Any advice? – Power Leak
Dear Power Leak: I just love that description. If we all told the truth, we would admit that no matter how cool we think we are, there is some situation or person that causes us to leak our power.
Some people actually live with people for whom they consistently leak away their power. It can be done with a certain look, a word or a gesture. When I was a child and would misbehave in church, my mother could give me that special look and I would not only go weak in the knees but immediately sit up straight and behave.
18 Nov 2013
- Written by Goldie Taylor/theGrio
My grandmother, with skin as dark and smooth as molasses and no formal education, never had a will. She didn't need one. She left this earth with a little under $100 in her savings account. But Alice Cole Robinson gave me some things good money cannot buy: an enduring faith in God, her banana pudding recipe, and a devotion to the St. Louis baseball Cardinals.
We couldn't afford to go to more than a few games a season. And even then, only when nose-bleed seats went on sale. My cousin Bookie and I used to crawl into the backseat of my uncle's old white Buick for the short drive to Busch Stadium. Grandma Alice never went. She preferred to sit in her upper room and listen on her transistor radio perched on the windowsill. She could see the brightly lit stadium from her armchair as she listened to Jack Buck call the game.
I was raised on big league ball. The 1982 World Series was like Christmas in our house. I will never forget pitchers like Joaquin Andujar and Bruce Sutter. Coming up, I had heroes like Oberkfell, McGree, Hernandez, and the Smiths—Lonnie and Ozzie. Manager Whitey Herzog and Cardinal legend Lou Brock were nothing short of gods in our house.
07 Nov 2013
- Written by Charles D. Ellison/The Root
Here's a fairly simple concept for supporters of that persistently troubled health care law with the glitchy website that runs as slow as a NetZero connection: Stop calling it "Obamacare."
For sure, that's a tough pill for fan girls and boys to swallow. There are legions of stubborn partisan Democrats who want the law to work—an admirable goal, given the realities of the uninsured landscape. We get that. But in casually adopting or accepting one of the more derisive political-messaging terms in recent memory, faithful surrogates (including the namesake himself) are refusing to put it to rest.
In that sense, it's worth wondering whether supporters are actually interested in making certain the Affordable Care Act actually does what it says or if they're more interested in preserving its creator's political legacy. These are two vastly different goals—the latter as politically impolitic as the incessant Republican effort to repeal it.
05 Nov 2013
- Written by Earl Ofari Hutchinson
In a petition circulated online, Change.org minces no words – "NAACP: Hire the First Woman President in the NAACP's 104 year History."
Seventy percent of the respondents agreed it is time that NAACP (the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People) elect the first permanent woman president in its history.
The petition and the clamor for a woman to lead the organization came almost within moments after current NAACP President/ CEO Ben Jealous announced he was stepping down at the end of the year. This is hardly the first time there's been a clamor and an even louder criticism of the dearth of female leaders at the top of the nation's major civil rights organizations.
05 Nov 2013
- Written by Cheryl Pearson-McNeil/NNPA News Service
Today, of course, when we talk about what we watch, that doesn't necessarily mean just television or the big screen. We have the choice of watching content (e.g. movies, TV, shows and videos) on a number of our cool devices whenever we feel like it.
We have the choice of watching this content on a number of cool devices whenever and at times wherever we choose. We have our computers (African Americans are 10 percent more likely to spend time on the Internet searching for information on electronics than the total population); smartphones (71 percent of us own smartphones compared to 62 percent of the total population); and television of course (African Americans watch 37 percent more television that the total population, which is the most of any other group).
Although how we watch continues to evolve, what we watch remains consistent, as Nielsen's latest report on African-American consumers, Resilient, Receptive and Relevant: The African-American Consumer 2013 Report, details. We prefer shows and movies that star or feature people who look like us – even though they might not always act like the average African-American person (When was the last time you threw a drink in someone's face or tried to pull someone's wig off?). Marketers who want to reach African-American audiences and a piece of our $1 trillion buying power should be paying close attention.