Dear Lucy: Year after year I make New Year's Resolutions. I have made some of the same ones over and over only to not reach them. Then there are some that I make that are a piece of cake. This year, I want to really achieve something great that I can look back on and be proud of. Do you have any suggestions about this? – "Ready for a brand new life"
Dear "Ready": This is the time when most of us begin to consider our past in light of our future. One of the hard things to come to grips with is that if we look around very closely, we can see that whatever is going on in our lives right now we have created! That involves taking on the commitment to truly think about and create the life we want day-by-day and thought-by-thought.
Whatever is going on in our lives is a result of what we believe about life, God, ourselves and other people. Whatever you believe to be your good is what you will always go after. So, here are a few steps to take:
1. Look closely at what is going on in your life right now. For the things and people that you don't like or enjoy, ask yourself, "What am I believing about these people, myself or these circumstances that allows them to keep showing up in my life?" For example, if you seem to attract jealous or mean people, do you believe that all people are basically jealous and mean? Are you afraid that deep down you are jealous and mean? Really examine what you are expecting. We get what we expect and have the power to eliminate what we closely inspect.
2. For the things in your life that you love and enjoy, ask the same question. The things or qualities that you truly believe to be good, valuable, worthwhile and useful on a consistent basis will be attracted to you.
3. Make a list of the beliefs you want to maintain and the ones you want to change or eliminate from your thinking. Now work on your thinking!
Somewhere along the way, humanity decided that God's idea for us is one of struggle...that anything worth having has to be hard and painful to get. That's not true. We are told in many different ways that: "My yoke is easy and my burden is light"; "It is my Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom." This is what I mean by our beliefs about God creating our reality. If you believe it is God's will that you should struggle, then you will struggle.
Life is sweet, generous, fun and above all, fair! We get to decide. And when you stick to your own truth, you get the results you want. Michelangelo once said that the greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that our aim is too low and we reach it.
It's tempting to set goals you think you can achieve based on your current circumstances. But, circumstances are only your history – they are not your destiny. Decide today on what you want and what it is you belief about your right to have it. Really look closely at what you believe about your desire.
Then, pause for just a moment and ask, "What step would I take toward this goal right now if I believed I could not fail?" Then, take that step and the next until you arrive at your desire.
To your next step!
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