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‘The difference between facts and belief’

Dear Lucy: Instead of getting better, the economy seems to be getting worse. I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel ... I have been without a job for over six months. I have run out of ideas and energy. 

Dear Lucy:

Instead of getting better, the economy seems to be getting worse. I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel unless it’s a freight train coming to finish me off! I have been without a job for over six months. I have run out of ideas and energy.

Dear Reader:

I don’t want to sound like I am not sympathetic, but I do want to point out a few things. There were more millionaires made during the last Great Depression in all of United States history. Hard times bring out the best in people. Here is my big idea for today: “It is not the facts that matter, it is what you believe about the facts.” You really are the “master of your fate and captain of your soul.”

If you read the newspaper, it will be reported as a provable fact that there are not enough jobs available in certain categories.  In fact, CNN “Money Report” on 9/2/11 said that there were no new jobs in the U.S. for the entire month of August. Now, how does that work out for you and me? It may be a statistical fact, but what do I choose to believe about that fact in relationship to me? Just because it is a fact that no new jobs were added into the economy in August does not mean that I have to suffer, does it?  

There are some fundamental beliefs that we all have that drive how we experience life, and we all have our own beliefs and comfort zones. So, here are some facts about me:

I am African-American, I’m over sixty, I live in a racially polarized city, I have grey hair, I am female and I am self-employed. I could tell you more, but it’s not your business.

These are FACTS.  What I do with them is up to me. I can choose to believe that being a self-employed African-American female, over sixty with grey hair living in a racially polarized community will have a negative impact on my capacity to make a living. And, I am here to tell you that this belief comes at me every, single day! I have to fight it off sometimes because if I don’t think about it, someone else will bring it up to me in some kind of way.

The Truth is that I am an imperfect human in an imperfect world and I refuse to be bogged down by the pressure to be perfect or to have a perfect world. Looking for perfection allows us to procrastinate, to make excuses, to feel all pitiful, fearful of being judged, never taking a risk, never stepping outside of our comfort zone and never taking less to get to more. There are days when I am not doing what I may prefer to be doing. But, I make a point of DOING SOMETHING!

We are made to move forward. We are not made to live our lives afraid. Sometimes decisions for change are very scary. But, sitting still can be even worse.

So, maybe things are not what they used to be or could be. But, you get to choose how you feel about that. If you let fear be your guide, you will keep getting run over by cars, buses, trains and even bicycles. To stand still is to die.  

Make a decision, face your fear, get up and do something you’ve never done before. You get to decide if the light in the tunnel is one of hope or one of impending destruction.

One thing about it though, you had better get up and move! If you think it’s a freight train coming to finish you off, then that’s what it will be. If you think it’s your freight train to freedom, then that’s what it is. You decide, you believe.

All aboard!


(Check out Lucy Shaw’s website at http://www.heart works4u.com. Send your questions to her by U.S. mail to: Heartworks4U, LLC; 4646 Poplar Ave. Ste 201, Memphis, TN 38117 or by e-mail to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. . You may also contact her for a free 20-minute consultation.)

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