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‘Housecleaning’ your mind makes room for joy

Dear Lucy: I recently turned forty years old and all of a sudden I am having so much trouble with my memory. I used to laugh at my friends who said that they were forgetting more as they aged.
 
 Lucy Shaw

Dear Lucy: I recently turned forty years old and all of a sudden I am having so much trouble with my memory. I used to laugh at my friends who said that they were forgetting more as they aged. It’s not so funny now. Is this my imagination or is there really something to this?

– E. Gray

Dear Reader: I suppose that from a medical standpoint there could be an explanation and for that you should see your doctor. From me you will just get my free personal opinion, nothing scientific!

Now I personally make a habit of avoiding conversations that begin with negative observations about getting older. I sincerely believe that the subconscious mind cannot take a joke. So if I tell jokes about things that are supposed to happen to me when I get “old,” they can very well come true. I cannot afford to take the chance that I have set up an expectation that must be fulfilled.  

For example, instead of having a “senior moment” I give thanks for a moment to think differently or to simply shut up. Also, when people send me these cute, funny jokes by email about the so-called ravages of aging, I try to avoid reading them. Sometimes they are too funny to pass up when I could use a good laugh. But I try not to pass them along. The images can plant seeds in our minds that take root in the midst of the laughter. Often, we are laughing because the joke has uncovered our deepest fear; if not for ourselves, then for someone we love.

I also read recently that there is some cutting edge research about Alzheimer’s indicating that the brain uses a huge amount of energy in it’s effort to hold onto the hurtful, fearful, angry, resentful or sad memories that we won’t let go of. The effort to hold all of these memories and manage the necessary tasks of daily living become overwhelming and the person simply stops remembering anything except carefully selected events that make sense for them just to ease the pain.  

Is this true? I don’t know. But I do know that it’s a good idea to be a good steward of my mind and do a regular housecleaning of it to make room for all of the joy I can possibly hold. I bet the capacity for that is unlimited!

I am not making light of your question because I know from experience what fatigue, depression, hidden fears or sadness can do to an otherwise perfectly sound mind. One of the greatest fears of all is that of not being enough or just not good enough. And when you are not telling yourself this lie, there are plenty of outside images or people to tell you that you are not enough!  

Let your affirmation for the next few weeks be this: “I am enough, I am good enough and there is always more than enough!” Try it especially when you get scared about forgetting.

I am enough!

Lucy

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(Check out Lucy Shaw’s website at http://www. heart works4u.com.  Send your questions to her by U.S. mail to: Heartworks4U, LLC; 4646 Poplar Ave. Ste 201, Memphis, TN 38117 or by e-mail to lucy@heartworks 4u.com. You may also contact her for a free 20-minute consultation.)

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