Opinion
‘Who does she think she is?’
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09 Jun 2011
- Written by Lucy Shaw
Lucy Shaw |
1. The quality or state of being mediocre.
Being average and ordinary
What do you do when that person whom you know in your heart doesn’t really like you suddenly wants to be your friend? Check out this week’s question:
Dear Lucy: “I recently had a co-worker to tell me how much she used to dislike me but now that she has gotten to know me, she wanted to tell me that she has changed her mind about me! She went on to tell me all the negative things she had thought and said about me to others and how now she sees that they were not true. She stood there smiling and all happy like I should congratulate and thank her for this information. I don’t trust her any more now than I ever did. Should I feel differently? At the time, I was too shocked and mad to say anything back to her.
Thanks, Christine A.
Dear Christine: Frankly, you should feel whatever you feel! I cannot tell you what to feel. It is hard to know other people’s motives or intentions. But you can know your own. I do, however, suggest that you not hold onto anger or hostility over this because a toxic spirit creates a toxic body!
Many years ago, I read this somewhere: “What you think of me is none of my business!” I think this is quite true and knowing it has blessed me over the years. My mother also cautioned us to be silent if we didn’t have anything good to say.
The voice of mediocrity is most often a voice of criticism, judgment and condemnation – that’s how it pulls others down to its level! The mediocre are the ones who can be frequently heard saying something like, “Who does she think she is?” In answer to that question I give out the following quote by Marianne Williamson on a laminated card!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Shine on, my sister!
Lucy
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