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Thu04172014

Opinion

‘Bad weather’ idea – nothing to agree with

There is something about unpredictable and disturbing weather that can leave us feeling vulnerable and very much out of control. 
 
 Lucy Shaw

Today in Memphis it rained again. There were tornado watches, sirens and reports of devastating winds and unpredictable weather throughout the region. There have been postings from MLGW for street closings due to high water levels.

During the month of April, there were record-breaking numbers of tornadoes across the country and specifically in the Southern states. There have been 280 deaths attributed to tornadoes already this year. Discovery News features an article that offers up an interesting explanation for this strange weather.  Read it at http://tinyurl.com/3fbl7wy.  

There is something about unpredictable and disturbing weather that can leave us feeling vulnerable and very much out of control. Someone asked me today, “How do you stop obsessing about the weather and creating pictures of destruction and fear in your mind over it?”

Trauma is defined as “an apparently life-threatening situation where we perceive that we are defenseless.” Apparently means that it appears to the individual to be life threatening whether it is or not! So, for someone who has had a really bad experience in the past related to storms or bad weather, this bad weather may trigger past memories and fears that can be difficult to control. There are techniques for dealing with this and you are welcome to contact me about it.  

But for the rest of us, we can be victimized by the constant conversations and high level of fear in the air. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being careful or taking wise and necessary steps to protect yourself, your family and your property. It is also wise to be educated on the weather forecast to more adequately plan for your safety. But I want to offer up something else that you can do to assist in ushering in a calming of the weather.

As human beings with the capacity to think and to have a huge variety of emotions and feelings, we are connected to our environment and contribute to its balance or imbalance.  One of the very best things that we can do to calm the storms is to monitor our own individual/per­sonal stormy feelings, thoughts and emotions! This may seem a little strange to you. But, have you noticed that it always takes two in agreement to conflict to advance that conflict? Stop agreeing with the idea of “bad weather.”

Have you also noticed that when you are in the company of a person with a perpetual “stormy attitude” that sometimes it seems like it’s catching and the next thing you know, you are also in a stormy mood? I just submit that if enough of us made a conscious commitment to monitor our thoughts and banish the storms, anger, floods of uncontrolled and negative emotion, the winds of strife, wars and rumors of wars with our loved ones and the fears that cause us to mistreat our neighbors, we could get this weather in control in no time!  I’m just saying. …  

Oh, yeah, and stop saying things like, “Of course it’s raining, it’s Memphis in May time!”

Calming the storms with you,

Lucy

(Check out Lucy Shaw’s website at www.heart works4u.com.  You may send your questions to her by US mail to: Heartworks4U, LLC; 4646 Poplar Ave. Ste 201, Memphis, TN 38117 or by e-mail to lucy@heart works4u.com.)

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