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Take ownership of your pride and unforgiveness button

LucyShaw-160Dear Lucy: I divorced my husband ten years ago. We have one child and now he is seventeen. His father has never paid child support and I have never done anything about it because I can usually handle everything myself. However, when I really need his help and ask, he knows how to push my buttons, make me mad and I walk away angry and empty handed. He has never done anything for our son willingly and makes me feel guilty for asking by telling me about the last time he gave me money. Now, my son doesn't even want to ask for anything. Senior year is coming up and I can really use the help. How can I get different results?
– Buttons

Dear Buttons: Our emotions can work for or against us. Could it be that one of the buttons he pushes is the one called pride and unforgiveness? These two states can make us very emotional.

First there is the pride that made you think you didn't need or want his help so you decided not to legally enforce his responsibility to provide support for his child. Second, when we wallow in unforgiveness, it's hard to be civil. And here is something about forgiveness that we need to remember. To forgive a person does not mean that we let them go free. It means that we let ourselves go free. We become free enough to think rationally and without cloudy emotions.

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ON OUR WAY TO WEALTHY: The business of landscaping

lawncare 600The beautiful May flowers nurtured by April showers are usually accompanied by overgrown grass and weeds. With very little upfront investment, a lucrative business can be created for landscaping residential and commercial properties.

Many men have flashbacks of their younger days when their parents demanded they mow the lawn. Equipped with little more than a push mower and a rake, the teens went to work on the lawn. The more industrious teens became entrepreneurs, mowing more than just their parent's home. They made contact with the neighbors and began their summer jobs tending to the lawns in the neighborhood.

With a standard of expertise above the norm, lawn care now is a thriving business. Whether the business is independently started as a sole proprietorship or a franchise is purchased, there is money to be made in the industry. The benefit of an independently started business is that the profits are not shared and the entrepreneur is free to make his or her own rules. The benefit of a franchised business is that most of the documents needed to begin the business have already been created by the franchisor. Depending on the geographic region, marketing may also be included in the monthly fees.

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The inspiration for ‘From The Rough’

roughinspiration 600NASHVILLE – Former Tennessee State University golf coach Catana Starks' story will be featured in the movie "From The Rough" starring Oscar nominee Taraji P. Henson.

The film is inspired by the life of Dr. Starks, who became the first African-American woman to coach an all-men's team at the collegiate level. Through grit and determination, she overcame incredible odds and deep-seated prejudice to guide a group of golfers to a championship season.

According to BVonMovies.com , Henson will play a fictionalized version of Starks named Cassandra Turner, who parlays a successful stint as coach of the women's swim team at a historically black college into a shot at building the men's golf team. With available black players scarce, Turner scours Europe, Australia and Asia for hidden talents and constructs a uniquely multi-racial team.

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ArtsMemphis presents Stax to the Max

staxtothemax 600For the fourth year in row, the Stax Museum of American Soul Music is taking it to the streets with ArtsMemphis Presents Stax to the Max, the annual all-day, outdoor, free music and arts festival.

This year's event takes place Saturday (April 26th) from 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. The rain date is Sunday from 1 p.m. to 7 p.m.

The festival, held behind the Stax Museum, features all-day live music, arts performances, merchandise vendors, nonprofit booths, food trucks, children's activities, health screenings by University of Tennessee Health Science Center, and more. Last year's event drew approximately 8,000 attendees despite have been delayed a day due to inclement weather.

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Putting Braille on the menu

braille 600Fourteen people gathered on a Friday morning in March for breakfast at the nationally acclaimed Brother Juniper's restaurant near the University of Memphis campus. While it is not unusual for a group to spend time together over a meal, it was apparent on this day that some individuals in the group were either totally blind, visually impaired or disabled in other ways.

"This is our Braille User Support Group, one of our outreach initiatives," said Dr. Lavonnie Perry Clayborn, research assistant professor and director of Mid-South Access Center for Technology, a non-profit assistive technology resource center located in Patterson Hall in room 119 on the U of M campus.

Mid-South ACT is a division of the Center for Rehabilitation and Employment Research (CRER), a member of the Alliance for Technology Access (ATA), and a partner with Advanced Multimedia Devices – a Partnership for Excellence Program. It was founded in 1998 and provides resources for teachers, clinicians, parents with children who have disabilities, and individuals with disabilities.

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